You’re surrounded by imperfection. Everyone has a handful of strengths and a bucketful of weaknesses.
If strengths smelled like warm cookies and weaknesses smelled like wet dog, everyone would stink.
Overcome frustration with imperfection by accepting imperfection in yourself AND others.
3 truths about acceptance:
- Acceptance isn’t approval.
- Acceptance isn’t surrender.
- Acceptance is the foundation for influence and improvement.
You can’t antagonize and influence at the same time.
Say it out loud:
I accept my boss.
I accept my organization.
I accept the people on my team.
Four options If you can’t accept your imperfect boss, organization, or team.
- Get a new boss.
- Get a new team.
- Get a new organization.
- First, change yourself.
Frustrated people focus on changing others. But success begins when you first change yourself.
Work to change yourself before working to change others.
- “What should I do?” comes before, “They should.”
- “How might I change?” comes before, “They need to change.”
- “What can I learn?” comes before, “I need to teach them.”
Meddle with yourself before you meddle with others.
- You’re frustrated with silos in your organization. What are you allowing that causes or sustains silos?
- You feel left out of the loop. How are you leaving people out of the loop?
- A team member irritates you. How might this team member reflect something that needs to change in you?
- Lack of clear direction at work frustrates you. How might you seek direction?
- Others are boring. What if you’re boring?
Reflecting on imperfection in others is self-affirming. But self-reflection is where growth begins.
You may be superior to others, but leaders don’t stand aloof.
Walk around honoring and respecting the good, even while improving deficiencies.
When irritated, think, “Who do I need to become so I can lead imperfect others?”
How might leaders survive and thrive in imperfect organizations?